How to Use a Vibrator: Tips From Sex and Wellness Experts
But if you’ve got a ring that’s flexible enough, like this favorite of Zizelman’s, it can be stretched around the base of your shaft and your balls, increasing its positive effects. “Around the shaft, you are going to get restricted blood flow to help keep a strong and longer-lasting erection,” Zizelman says. But despite the balls and scrotum typically being relegated to a supporting role (if that) in any given sexual encounter, there are countless inventive ways to stimulate them. For instance, cupping them, stroking them, and tugging on them can feel good. Vibrators, cock rings, and ball-stretchers can all create interesting scrotal sensations.
Both of these areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimulation. Discretion isn’t always a concern when it comes to buying and using a vibrator. But if you live in a house full of other people (particularly with kids who are curious and prone to touching things that aren’t theirs), it very well might be a priority to have a quiet and sneaky sex toy in your collection. Thankfully , your favorite sex toy shops are loaded with discreet vibrators that offer subtlety, silence, and satisfying sex in equal measure.
According to our panel, Le Wand was “a lot of fun” during partnered play. The versatile toy can be used for sensual massages, foreplay and during sex. Our panellists were blown away by the number of speed settings and distinctive vibration patterns there were to experiment with, allowing them to achieve orgasms that were both fast and intense. While the Deluxe Mini is small, it’s also pretty mighty, Megan Fleming, MD, a psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, tells SELF. Its seven vibration patterns and 10 speed settings provide plenty of variety—FYI, that’s 70 combinations total. Plus, the ultra-flexible neck comes in handy when you’re using it with a partner (or two).
If you’re in the market for a toy that does all the work for you vibrators, has a vast range of customisable settings and clever technology that feels even better than the real thing – then we might have just the thing. This gadget gets its name from its vibrating ‘rabbit ears’, positioned along the shaft at just the right height to stimulate the clitoris. We also loved the squeeze sensors placed on either side of the device that allow you use the pressure of your hands to adjust the vibrations. Overall, a great choice for those who like to experiment and have more control over their experience.
These one-and-done products allow you to explore your sexual tastes and try something new without breaking the bank, she explains. Dr. O’Relly suggests this remote- and app-controllable option from We-Vibe. It magnetically fastens into underwear (of any style) or a strap-on harness so “you can wear it out on the town or at a dinner party to take pleasure in secrecy and/or breaking the rules,” she says. The vibrations themselves are powerful but quiet—idea for thrill-seekers who enjoy the playful side of pleasure, she adds. The bestselling Dame Fin can be held between your fingers and has an optional tether that can loop around them for even more movement and exploration. “If you prefer the tactile sensation of your partner’s hand to that of a sex toy, you can position the Fin on the top side of your fingers, turning them into a conduit for the vibration,” says Finn.
Waterproof and app-enabled, it offers two motors and two control tracks to control both the clitoral stimulator and G-spot stimulation. And while you might have found your way around your own clitoris (or guided a few partners through the Do’s and Don’ts), it’s totally normal for the clit to take a bit of time to reach full arousal. “Remember that it takes, on average, minutes of stimulation and foreplay before a woman is fully aroused,” Serra says. Vibe uses UltraWave Vibration, which “combines low-frequency, rumbly vibrations with 10 powerful, harmonic resonances,” the brand explains. The stimulation is described as intense but gentle, and the whole experience should be smooth and sexy without ever crossing the line into too much. Vibe also offers three autopilot modes that last for 10 minutes each, letting you take a full journey into pleasure.
“It’s not exactly a traditional vibrator, but many women swear by it,” says Mioch. Its design and compact shape mean it can be used for any area that calls out for sucking, from the clit to the nipples. With 8 settings to try, you can actually pair the Tiani 3 with other Lelo toys to give you and your partner the same vibrating experience on different devices.
Plus, read up on sexpert insight on what makes this genre of vibes so unique and so worthy of your wallet. WhisperBullet, available for $59.99, is a sleek, compact sub-audible bullet vibrator offering five vibration speeds that cater to any mood, from gentle to intense. Powered by Bellesa’s revolutionary WhisperTech™, this product delivers powerful pleasure while remaining undetectable to the human ear.